“If you don’t attain a certain level of success, responsible women can’t fall in love with you. It is not because they are materialistic or they like money, it is because they are too responsible to walk into poverty with their eyes opened.” -Anonymous
I have been drawn to these words for the better part of today. Exactly who are “responsible women” by definition?! It’s sad but truly, most Nigerian women are of this school of thought. The “he has to be rich and comfortable” school of thought.
I might sound a little bit prejudicial on this piece, bear with me and don’t take offence, I’m just a little bit appalled.
Is success synonymous to riches?
“Success is not measured in terms of money.” -Afolabi Debby.
The fact that a lady can not fall in love with a man because he hasn’t attained “a certain level of success” absolutely makes her materialistic. For some people, I guess relationships is all about the money and all they can get from it!
Is it all about the money?
What happened to loving through the thick and thorns? Why do ladies think not about “struggling” with a man? Why is it so hard to see a lady willing to start from scratch with a man? Has the love of money really taken over our entire being and existence?
“I like a man who has prospects, who isn’t afraid to take risks and isn’t lazy.” -Adewoyin Barakat.
I believe the real, responsible and valuable women are willing and ready to help their men grow and succeed.
“I would struggle with my man.” -Adetunmbi Eyitomilayo.
Some or shall I say most young ladies think they put themselves in a better position by dating an “already made” man. They believe with his riches, they won’t lack for anything and more importantly, they can show off. Alas! They know not how much of a commodity they make themselves, and consequently, how cheap a commodity they are.
“Some ladies be looking for already baked cake, what happened to mixing your own dough to your desired taste?!” -Adewoyin Barakat.
No one is saying don’t fall in love or date an “already made” man. What I’m pointing out is how cheap you become by dating anyone because they are rich and already made.
Seeing, recognising, and appreciating value, potential, prospect and ambition in a man speak much more about the lady. Sadly, it is a trait not many girls possess. It is safe to say that most Nigerian ladies are all about all that glitters.
“I don’t follow guys that don’t have ambition.” -Akinpelu Qudrat.
Can’t a lady work for and earn her own money?
Going by the opening statement, it means those “responsible women” are solely dependent on their men. They are “too responsible” to walk into poverty with their eyes opened, but they ain’t responsible enough to earn their own money. These kinds of “responsible” women only fall in love with men that are able to fill their pockets… How responsible.
I was drawn to the fact that a girl’s family background sometimes has a huge influence. Now, I believe it is worse when indigence influences a lady’s decision. It goes to show how lowly and desperate she really is. Can’t a lady work hard and be successful?!
Work hard, find an ambitious guy with prospects and potentials and if you find yourself an affluent dude along the way, fine… Build an empire together. It commands respect and creates that special bond- the “me and my rib” kinda relationship. Not the “I brought you from the gutters” kind.
SPECIAL THANKS TO THOSE THAT TREATED ME TO THEIR INTELLIGENCE ON THIS PIECE. I APPRECIATE THE INSIGHT.
What do you think? Prospects or already made?